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Some were outraged a book about gender identity was read to children.

“Move beyond the gender binary.” That was the message the Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Trenton used to promote a children's book event earlier this month in Hamilton, New Jersey.

The Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Trenton sponsored a reading for local children of "My Shadow is Purple" by Scott Stuart at the Hamilton Township Public Library.

The book is described by the publisher as “a story about being true to yourself, just as you are,” and features a young protagonist realizing it’s okay to be themselves, even if they don’t fit comfortably within the gender binary.

Though the event itself reportedly took place with little trouble, now some local parents are outraged that a Catholic charity would sponsor the event. They argue the message goes against Catholic principles and the best interests of children under the church's watch.

My Shadow is Purple

What exactly is the content in the book that parents are objecting to?

"My Shadow is Purple" uses color metaphors to challenge the gender binary and explain the concept to a younger audience. The author uses a pink shadow to symbolize being a girl, and a blue shadow for being a boy.

"My dad has a shadow that’s blue as a berry and my mom's is as pink as a blossoming cherry," state’s the book’s young protagonist in its opening lines. "There’s only those choices, a two or a one. But mine is quite different. It’s both and it’s none. If theirs are straight then mine is a circle."

The main character is described as having a purple shadow, different from their mom and dad. “My shadow loves playing with all sorts of toys. Things loved by girls and things loved by boys,” he says in the story. The book tells children they don’t necessarily have to conform to traditionally masculine or feminine roles, and that it’s okay to enjoy both ‘boy’ things and ‘girl’ things.

Wearing a combination suit and dress, the child is forced to choose whether to stand on the girls’ side or boys’ side at a school dance, and breaks down in tears at the thought of doing so. In the end, however, all the other children join the protagonist to dance together in the center of the dance floor, joined by their various multicolored shadows – pink, blue, purple, and beyond.

You can see and hear the book read aloud in full below.

The Backlash Begins

Of course, not everyone was pleased that a book promoting gender nonconformity was read to kids, and some local parents expressed outrage when news broke that a local Catholic charity coordinated the reading.

"We are in a state of complete disbelief that our Diocese would align itself with something so clearly in opposition to the teachings of our faith,” explained one parent. "We seriously question how this sponsorship is anything other than a sad example of secularized virtue signaling… I would also like the Diocese of Trenton to explain how moving children 'beyond the gender binary' will move them closer to God?"

The Diocese has a response: they were simply fulfilling a legal contract with the New Jersey Department of Children and Families, which occasionally includes book readings like this one.

“[We offer] a wide variety of educational and prevention programs for students, families and educators to ensure the children in the county have access to behavioral health care as well as information about numerous issues that can impact a student’s mental health," the charity explained.

Past Controversy

It isn’t the first time this particular book has made headlines. In 2023, longtime Georgia teacher Katherine Rinderle was fired from Due West Elementary School in Marietta, Georgia, after reading the book to her 5th-grade students. 

In a 4-3 decision, the Cobb County School Board voted to fire Renderle following parent backlash, on the grounds that she violated the state’s law on teaching “divisive concepts,” which bars teachers from “espousing personal political beliefs” in the classroom.

At the time, Scott Stuart responded to Rinderle’s firing, calling it “disgusting.”


And the book was purchased AT THE SCHOOL at a book fair.

♬ original sound - Scott Stuart

Beyond the Binary

By most standards, "My Shadow is Purple" is pretty tame, especially compared to some other books that have been in the crosshairs of anti-LGBTQ advocates.

Fans of the book note that it also doesn’t tear down or disparage those who fit into traditional gender norms, and its overarching message is to teach empathy for oneself and kindness to others.

Clearly, though, critics feel as though the content crosses a line and is inappropriate for children. 

What do you make of the controversy? Are parents overreacting, or is the message truly antithetical to faith teachings?


  1. Robert Hauck, MD, FAAP's Avatar Robert Hauck, MD, FAAP

    Parochial school leadership can be heartless. My family member, one of a Catholic Elem. school's best teachers, was terminated for a minor religious issue they considered critical. Who lost? The kids in the Catholic school. Who won? The kids across town in the Lutheran school who knew her reputation as a teacher and hired her in a nanosecond. She thrived in her new less restrictive school environment and although raised as a Catholic soon afterward left Catholicism. Unfortunately rigidity and intolerance are the dark side of many religions

    1. John Donald Cox's Avatar John Donald Cox


  1. Colleen McAllister's Avatar Colleen McAllister

    This book is nothing more than a simple story telling children to be themselves. I see nothing here that violates my faith (Christian) so perhaps Catholics need to lighten up and let children be children.

    1. Barbara Harris's Avatar Barbara Harris

      Colleen McAllister, you have always been a voice of reason and compassion. As a Pagan I find this so refreshing. Thank you for being here.

    2. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

      Colleen, while the book is designed to appear as you described, it is actually well crafted propaganda to teach transgender and queer ideologies to vulnerable children whose minds are not yet developed enough to be critical the material or its presentation.

      1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

        That’d be you pushing maga ideology, Kester. Not this simple book which explains that some people are just different. No more. You trying to pervert it says more about you than you’re able to realize.

        1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

          A truly sad comment.

          1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

            A joyous wonder compared to the lies and hate you spread, Kester.

    3. ServantOfJudgement's Avatar ServantOfJudgement

      Young men of this day call it "putting the tip in".

      1. Joe R Day's Avatar Joe R Day

        How would you know that?? curious

  1. Barbara Harris's Avatar Barbara Harris

    As a little girl I loved to play with my Barbie doll, but Ken was not my idea of who I wanted her to be with, so I would abduct my brother's GI Joe. I hated wearing dresses, and still do to this day. I played I was a pirate or an explorer. I climbed trees to read books in the peace of a tree. I wanted to go to the Colorado School of Mines, but they didn't accept woman at the time. I was in heaven, when in the late 60s, my high school allowed girls to wear pants, jeans or heaven forbid those really short miniskirts, which were the only dresses/skirts that I did like to wear.

    In the mid 70s I met and married my husband and we were together for almost 37 years. I look back at all the things that have occurred in all these years and it saddens me to see this amount of hate and angst. I never have fit the mold of being a girl/woman. My favorite color has been purple all of my life. Someone, once told me that was because my being vibrated at a higher level. Maybe that is why I am so accepting.

    1. Patricia Ann Gross's Avatar Patricia Ann Gross

      Thank you for this, Barbara. I grew up during the same time. I remember the first time I got to wear pants to school (it took another couple of years before they allowed jeans, but never shorts). I also prefered GI Joe or toy soldiers to Barbie. Today, I could be open as "gender fluid." Back then I was bullied, ridiculed, and excluded for prefering the "boy" things.

  1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

    Saying something as benign as gender being fluid isn’t the phantom which right winger Christians are trying to project it as. When you break it down, no two cis hetero people express gender the same, so why should it matter when other don’t express on the cis portion of the fluidity?

    1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

      Robert, the ideology that gender is fluid is wrong. Gender is inherent and enduring. Kudos on your efforts to slip that falsehood past the reader by referring to it as being benign. CIS hetero people don't exist, straight people do. This matters because it's pushing bad gender theory as correct when it's wrong.

      1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

        Kester you attack the victim’s of child predators, like child predators when confronted by their peers. You have nothing credible or decent to say. You attack anything that isn’t white Christian nationalism, gender essentialism, and so many archaic ideals that are slowly but surely being moved away from. The idea that gender is not fluid is archaic and incomplete. You have no real science to back up what you’re saying, and everything you’ve said is just parroted from right wing media, nothing more.

        1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

          I feel great sorry for those who think this way.

          1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

            You don’t mean it though. Hollow words from a hollow soul. By the by Kester, the name for what you do every comment, is Gish Gallop people.

            For those reading out there. It’s a rhetorical technique in which a person in a debate attempts to overwhelm an opponent by abandoning formal debating principles, providing an excessive number of arguments with no regard for the accuracy or strength of those arguments and that are impossible to address adequately in the time alloted to the opponent. On the internet it takes the form of long winded novel sized statements most people don’t bother dealing with.

            1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

              Gee, and to think that my last comment was only one sentence long while yours was 18 lines. Are you sure your comment wasn't an exercise in self-reflection?.

  1. Bridget Kielas-Fecyk's Avatar Bridget Kielas-Fecyk

    That book is completely benign. There's no sex in it, it's not "Pornography", there is nothing except a gender fluid protagonist. I heard about this. They're screaming saying that the book is "pornography", that it's "abuse", that it's "grooming kids to be sex slaves", etc.

    These people are INSANE. I'm betting there's going to be a bunch that are going to grab copies of the book to do tiktoks of themselves burning them and screaming how it needs to be banned, etc.

    1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

      Bridget, simply because the book doesn't have pornographic material doesn't mean it's benign. Nazi propaganda didn't use pornographic material but it wasn't benign. Far from it as is this book.

      1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

        Using a false equivalency doesn’t mean your opinion is correct, Kester. The Nazis burned down a museum, burned all of its research and books. Both were dedicated to early modern studies an trans and LGBTQ+ individuals. You’re siding with those who would silence all voices included yours in the community. The LGB will not be spared from them.

        1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

          No, I don't side with those who would silence dissenting voices which is why I don't side with the progressive left.

          1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

            You side with the regressive right who burn or ban books, lynch people, shoot up schools, and advocate for child marriage. We know you side with predators of all stripes, Kester. Your side for silence dissenting voices. It’s what you’re trying to do now.

      2. Bridget Kielas-Fecyk's Avatar Bridget Kielas-Fecyk

        So you're saying that a book about a gender-fluid individual is the same as the hate-filled rhetoric of Nazi propaganda which pushed for the persecution and destruction of an entire culture?

        That's a lot of raw, unadulterated, hatred you have there

        1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

          A false equivalency as anyone can see and suggests things not said while ignoring what actually was said.

          1. Bridget Kielas-Fecyk's Avatar Bridget Kielas-Fecyk

            Not at all. You're the one, btw, who compared the book to such hate-filled propaganda, not myself. Unless you're trying to state that you words were, in fact, using a false equivalency to deliberately try to denigrate and show hate toward the LGBTQI+ community, and such a harmless book without outright saying it?

      3. James Riggle-Johnson's Avatar James Riggle-Johnson

        Kester, you just compared a book of acceptance to a brutal regime who killed millions of people. This book is telling children not everyone is the same. It has nothing to do with transgender ideology. Gender fluidity is not the same thing as being transgender. They are totally different things.

        1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

          James, I showed that Bridget's statement that the book was okay because it didn't contain any pornography was bad thinking. I offered a counter example of another ideology that did not contain pornography but was definitely bad. I attacked her reason for defending the book as poor reasoning which it was. I asked Google AI to define gender fluidity and it responded, "Gender fluidity is a term that describes a person whose gender identity or expression is not fixed and can change over time or from day to day." So, yes, a person can have a male body and claim to be a girl which is transgenderism on steroids because it said that they can change an hour later. So gender fluidity is another umbrella term under which transgender falls. Gender is not fluid.

  1. Matthew Mastrogiovanni's Avatar Matthew Mastrogiovanni

    Once again the church chooses hate.

  1. William Lewis Vass's Avatar William Lewis Vass

    Let me be perfectly clear here. God, whether exists or not, is a crutch for religion. I have a transgender son so I'm speaking from experience. If you start questioning whether books are good or bad you are no better than hitler and the nazi Party. A book is neither good nor bad its simply words on paper. Saying this particular book is against your faith is as far from christ as the east is from the west. Do you think he would approve of your behavior or call you out as he did the scribes and pharisees. I can guarantee it would be the second choice. Look in the mirror and what you see looking back is your true nature. You may see a reflection of yourself while others see themselves in the wrong physical body.

    1. Elizabeth Jane Erbe Wilcox's Avatar Elizabeth Jane Erbe Wilcox

      Thank you, William. I have a transgender daughter so I appreciate your kindness and sensibility.

  1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

    It's inappropriate for any public setting. It's clearly indoctrination of the worst kind. I listened to the video (thank you ULC for including the link). I was hoping all the hoopla was wrong and that I would like it, but I didn't. I was hoping it would actually be about the variations expressed within both genders, but instead it was pushing the ideology of trans genderism without using the term trans. And written so playfully and cute that it's author was hoping to bypass the cognitive thinking of the brain using lyrical prose and colors and place its ideological message into the subconscious while the conscious was lulled with pleasant sensations. So while the book's cute, I have to say shoot. Please close that book, the author's a crook.

    1. Rev. Dr. Father JJ's Avatar Rev. Dr. Father JJ

      those are exactly my thoughts only with regard to the bible and religion. funny how we can each say the same thing but about something completely different. religious brainwashing is worse than any so-called "indoctrination" you are referring to.

      1. White Owl's Avatar White Owl

        And those who say that about the bible also say it should not be taught in schools, so we all agree neither of these books belong in schools?

        1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

          One of those books is just a helpful summary of gender fluidity, the other has been a source of devil for 2000 years. The Bible has no place in school aside from history class or some kind of theocracy class. I have no issue with it being used as example of human folly.

          1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester


            1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

              Yes, you throwing trans and non binary people under the bus to impress right wing fascists is foolish of you Kester.

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    2. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

      What you’re saying is more true about the Bible, than this book Kester. The only one pushing for indoctrination is you with your ideas that schools should be religious indoctrination centers that are segregated by gender. Again you confess what right wingers are wanting only with their brand on it.

      1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

        Simply lies.

        1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

          You do tell a lot of them 😊

    3. Patricia Ann Gross's Avatar Patricia Ann Gross

      Russell, I'm sorry you feel the way you do about this book, but it is totally benign. I grew up in the 60s and 70s, and the book, up to and including the point we were "required to choose" describes my childhood. I had to choose "pink" even though it didn't fit. I do and always have identified as female, but have spent more time doing more traditional male things than female things. I also have a more masculine build and features so I am often refered to as "sir." There is nothing subliminally suggesting becoming trans in the book. I know what it is like to be ridiculed and excluded because I liked the more "boyish" things than the "girly girl" things as a kid. This book only highlights that it is normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Transgender is a totally different thing, as it is the overwhelming need to live as a person of the opposite gender and is more of a binary than a fluid ideology. I would suggest that you search deep in your soul and find your "feminine" side, because as much as you want to deny it, there is probably a loving and nurturing side to you that perhaps once tried on his mother's high heels.

      1. Joe R Day's Avatar Joe R Day

        Well written Patricia. I echo your thoughts...

  1. Rev Ned's Avatar Rev Ned

    Some people find rainbows on things to be very scary.

  1. Ari Joseph Bertine's Avatar Ari Joseph Bertine

    Huge overreaction. It's not like they just taught kids how to target human beings with a rifle or how to mix cyanide into tea. It's just a book about modern gender representation and interpretation. Nobody who isn't adhering to the exact style of dress that was being worn by men and women in ancient Israel at the time of the writing of the OT scripture about gendered dress can say one word about what's proper and what isn't.

  1. John Donald Cox's Avatar John Donald Cox

    Fear is what motivates those of us who say, "We've always done it this way." Fear is what motivates us to say, "Change is bad." Yet, the one thing that is a constant is change. Change is happening and it's going to continue to happen. There's nothing that's going to stop change. We can burn books and we can discuss the pros and cons about change but change will continue. Change will happen regardless of what we may have to say about change and no matter the extent of our fears.

    1. Joe R Day's Avatar Joe R Day

      Heraclitus said, "The only constant in the universe is the rate of change." Fear is a powerful motivator and drives many humans to do terrible things. This is just another example of how one belief system is used to try and control others...

  1. Patricia Law's Avatar Patricia Law

    It is not pro trans the story allows all people to break free from maintaining set form of expression by gender .Why do women have to love cooking and cleaning? Men have to express no soft caring emotions? What the book is trying to explain is that we as people are beyond the prescribed gender roles placed upon us.

    1. Kathryn Mosa's Avatar Kathryn Mosa

      Well you see... the problem is people don't actually read these books before they start complaining about them.

  1. Bishop William Dusenberry, DD's Avatar Bishop William Dusenberry, DD

    Anything called a school, that uses indoctrination (brainwashing) into one specific point of view, only — should by force of law — no longer be able to refer to their places of indoctrination, as a school; schools are places to learn, not to be indoctrinated. Ditto: universities and colleges. If their primary objective is to indoctrinate, and/or brainwash, Notre Dame should be called Notre Dame Institute of Indoctrination, instead of Notre Dame University. Parochial Schools, should be renamed Parochial Establishments of Indoctrination. And, be reminded, parochial means narrow minded, which should not be followed by “school.”

    1. Rev. Dr. Father JJ's Avatar Rev. Dr. Father JJ

      you basically described churches and, religion in general

    2. Joe R Day's Avatar Joe R Day

      Just some information about the difference between indoctrination and teaching.

      "The difference between indoctrination and teaching is as follows: Teaching is the act of imparting knowledge or skills to help someone learn new information, understand concepts, and develop abilities. It encourages inquiry and critical thinking."

      "Indoctrination, on the other hand, involves instilling a set of beliefs in someone, often without encouraging questioning or critical analysis. It does not promote critical thinking or questioning."

      Jim Jones and his followers used indoctrination to keep his followers in line... William, it would seem that you are in favor of indoctrination, rather than teaching.

      JMO, but that's what you wrote...

  1. Robert Gagnon's Avatar Robert Gagnon

    Remember gateway drugs?It's OK everybody's doing it, just because your parents tell you It's not healthy to let your imagination and symbols lead you down a bad path...etc..etc. And what a wonderful fairy tail, everybody accepted and converted simultaneously. Such a brave soul to change the world. Fairy tail, not a hero. Epilogue: No one else had such shadows, kid was bullied, started cutting them self, transitioned, world didn't get better, found em swinging from the ceiling fan. parents wonder where it all started.

    1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

      It starts when sentiments like this are shoveled into their existences by people like yourself Gags. Cowards who don’t know how to leave people alone. More of us survive than die off, it’s why we’ve always been here. The bullies are the problem, not the child who is different. THe parents, like you, who push their children down the actual dark paths of bullying and cruelty are also the problem. It’s okay everyone is doing it is the only reason religion is so popular.oh and it’s fanatics forcing it with violence also helps.

      1. Robert Gagnon's Avatar Robert Gagnon

        Who's the coward? You complain how you were afraid of your own shadow (whatever the color) when you were a kid. The world will not change for the people that want to show off that they are different (strange). "It's OK everyone is doing it" is referring to this gender abnormality you promote. My kid was never a bully, she has inner strength and true character. But, she nor I will tolerate the meek and misguided trying to roar like a tiger. Stomping around in indignation, claiming that they deserve complete acceptance and praise while hiding behind respectable organizations banners. The world can be a cruel place to any non conformist. Just got to act like everybody else, not that complicated. Swim with the current or drown fighting it. That's a metaphor for you.

        1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

          Lol oh Gags, trying be an edgy tough guy is adorable of you, but it doesn’t work. You just sound even more pathetic. I am aware of how cruel life is, which is why I’ve always chosen kindness to those who need it. You don’t qualify. Too much of a coward bully. I suspect your child doesn’t talk to you much. Lol

          As someone who has taken my lumps. I’ve also given them bullies like you who need a reminding there’s always a bigger fish out there. When I reached 6’ the bullying stopped. When I hit 6’4 men like you never say these words to my face. Nor will you. Too much of a coward in love with harassing people on the internet. You speak of tigers when you’re just a snarling keyboard Chihuahua.

    2. ServantOfJudgement's Avatar ServantOfJudgement

      What a tragic and profound analysis.

      I've not delved into post transition suicides much but I know they happen. We use suicide as a reason to encourage transition then close our eyes afterwards and ignore the suicide because of transition. It seems like any voice encouraging pause is attacked then blotted out.

      If anything in the world is truly fluid it's the youth. It seems unwise to lock them in on a course they don't have the foresight to comprehend.

  1. ServantOfJudgement's Avatar ServantOfJudgement

    This why public schools ought not teach the bible. Apparently even Catholic schools teachers struggle to teach it. If one does not believe or comprehend the subject he ought not teach it. This nonsense is 1+1 for a child getting prepared to go down that long and twisted rabbit hole of gender insanity. The basic building block for absurdity. It is after all in the lgbtq2ia++:( section isn't it?

    It's good they ditched the teacher. She can get a job in a public school where they arm wrestle for a chance to drink the Kool aid.

    Jesus warned Christians to be as wise as the serpent for he knew the naive and nature of us. Even Christians here are blind to this deception calling it harmless, even promoting it. A mosquito bite is harmless until it isn't. Once and evil seed is planted and takes root in the mind of a child, extracting it is nearly impossible.

    Does anyone who opposes my opinion see that while you say stay out of our bedroom you also say to let me teach your children about our bedroom? You do it in our churches and in our schools. You demand your doctrine be preached while denying ours to be taught, even in our own places. You call them safe spaces, which used to make me laugh. Now the term puts me on alert.

    Our mind is a battle field Christians. Be wise about things, our Lord commands it.

    1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

      Gender identification has nothing to do with the bedroom, pervert. Your mind is checker board whilst the rest of us are plat 3D chess. We have no doctrine. We just have science as it is. You’re the one pushing for your psychotic Christian doctrine to be pushed on us. We are pushing for kids to be left alone, you’re pushing for them to be indoctrinated into being straight and Christian, like y’all have been doing for 2000 years now.

      1. Robert Gagnon's Avatar Robert Gagnon

        Simple math. Traditional gender vs. gender confused. Who are more likely to leave this world early by their own hand? Don't make excuses why, just plain numbers. Consider per capita, the obvious conclusion is it's not in anyone's best interests to veer from the norm.

        1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

          That’s not math. That’s just more ignorant nonsense, gags. 68% of all suicides in this country are white men. It seems like you guys confuse yourselves with what it means to be a man. The ideals you hold to be normal are so toxic they’re killing you guys off, Gags. Whilst lgbtq+ people do have a high rate of suicide, it’s because of the toxic norm that’s also killing you off is being pushed on us. You’re too busy thinking about men you’re not looking at the right numbers, gags.

      2. ServantOfJudgement's Avatar ServantOfJudgement

        Respectfully Robert, sexual preference identity is the entire lgbtqia2++ movement and excludes heterosexuals. The entire body identifies as a sexual preference. When I say something about the bedroom and lgbtqia2++ I'm standing on solid ground. When we introduce children to lgbtqia2++ material we're introducing them to sex and sexual preferences. If we do that in an educational institution we're indoctrinating them, as member Bishop William DunsberryDD sloppily stated.

        You're right about me, I keep things real simple. There's actually just straight and gay. The big acronym is just picking variations of gay. I'd like to expand on your 3D chess and say you're playing 9K D chess with thousands upon thousand of rules, layers and an impossible etiquette to follow. I'll stick with checkers. Man and woman. Homosexual and heterosexual. Nice and simple.

        It's a strange day when a person who identifies in a sexual sense to tell a guy who doesn't that he's a pervert. As I said of the lgbt2qia++ religion demands: Don't you dare invade our bedroom but you better let me tell you and your kids all about it.

        I don't even make my own kids read the bible although I've read I'm supposed to. I sure don't make you or anyone on this planet.

        1. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

          There is no LGBTQ+ religion. That’s you being a pervert again. I was talking about gender identification, you brought up sexuality, whilst they do synchronize, they’re separate concepts. Explaining gender can be done without it being sexualized, same with orientation. Both can be explained clinically. It doesn’t exclude heterosexuals, y’all just aren’t the focus. All straight Allies are welcome. Projecting religion is just your coward’s way of undermining through projection. You’re the one with the bat-crap crazy religion invading school rooms with your superstitious nonsense. Trans men are men, trans women are women, they’re men and women, though some are non binary. Gender has more to do with feeling than actual biology. Sex is biological, but it’s still a spectrum that’s not cut and dry. That’s pretty simple. You trying to over complicate it is just more subterfuges

          To be fair SOJ, between the four of you loud mouthed right wing regressives on here, I think your responses are the most thoughtful. I appreciate your candor.

    2. Lionheart's Avatar Lionheart

      Thank you for your thoughts. We actually have no evidence whatsoever that the biblical Jesus ever said anything meaningful other than what historians, (that never met him), like to imply what he said. So, in reality, we have no idea what he ever really commanded.

      Those historians that were alive during his suggested time on earth never wrote about him. Weird…right?


      1. ServantOfJudgement's Avatar ServantOfJudgement

        Lionheart, your right, YOU have no evidence at all. The Bible says you won't have any and you don't. A believer's eyes and ears have been opened. We've got tons of evidence of a creator, it's everywhere we look. His message seems to be accurate within our feeble understanding.

        Consider the colorblind and the color sighted. One sees colors and one does not. I'm surprised colorblind people believe me when I say the colors red and green exist but they do. For the life of me I just can't explain what those colors look like though.

        1. James Riggle-Johnson's Avatar James Riggle-Johnson

          Servant, I’m wondering. Do you believe the world is only 6000 years old? Do you believe dinosaurs lived with man? Some people believe that is exactly what the bible portrays. Science teaches us our solar system is about 4.5 billion years old while the universe itself is about 13 billion years old. How does that fit in with what the bible says? Do you really believe the entire human race began with just two people?

  1. James Riggle-Johnson's Avatar James Riggle-Johnson

    This book is not about being transgender or homosexual. It is about ebing gender binary, and they are not the same thing. Being gender binary as a child means it’s okay for little girls to climb trees, play with GI Joe, to wear pants instead of dresses. It’s also okay for boys to play with dolls, and yes, you can dance with another boy being labled as gay.

    Apparently, Christians and the far-right think that blue must be blue, and pink must be pink and if you talk about purple, you’re encouraging children to be homosexual or transgender. This book is not some kind of soft programing or indoctrination or about religion. It’s about children feeling good about themselves as they are.

    1. Joe R Day's Avatar Joe R Day

      Well written! This subject (and several others) lies at the border of 'What I believe is good for my offspring based on my beliefs.' I raised my 4 boys with the belief that everyone has different belief systems. To force our beliefs on someone else is not a good thing and can cause problems in that person's life. My sons are now in their late 40's and early 50's, two have families and I hope that what I taught them so many years ago has remained in their beliefs.

  1. James Mounts's Avatar James Mounts

    The mental-health crisis in this country is becoming alarming. Imagine people thinking shadows have sexes. Instead of teaching our children to be themselves, let's teach them to be better than themselves.

    1. Russel A. Kester's Avatar Russel A. Kester

      James, I really pondered the last part of your comment, I felt a sense of agreement but there was a hesitancy to my agreement. I we should be ourselves. But not in every way as we have a fallen nature prone to sin. Which made me agree with the very last part that we should be better than ourselves. That is better than ourselves when we're in the throws of sin. I concluded that as a compromise of these various feelings and thoughts, I will strive to be the best version of myself through God's guidance and grace. Thanks for prompting my thoughts to this conclusion.

    2. Elizabeth Jane Erbe Wilcox's Avatar Elizabeth Jane Erbe Wilcox

      Russel, if what you have demonstrated here is your idea of what your god is guiding you towards, you’re sadly being misguided. You demonstrate an evil, vile, and hard heart. I hope one day you will find truth, love, joy, and happiness.

  1. Steven Ferrell's Avatar Steven Ferrell

    Stop pushing this crap on children. It’s sad there is no such thing as a tomboy anymore. If a girl shows the slighted t interest in boys toys, climbing trees, etc, or a boy wants to play with dolls then right away they want to say….. oh they must be trans and start pushing that on them. Just leave kids alone.

    1. James Riggle-Johnson's Avatar James Riggle-Johnson

      Steven, this book is exactly about tomboys, and boys that might want to play with a doll. It’s saying that’s okay. It has nothing to do with being transgender.

    2. Rev. Dr. Father JJ's Avatar Rev. Dr. Father JJ

      Just because a girl plays with boys toys or a boy plays with girls toys does not mean either are going to be transgendered. What it does mean is that they might just have different interests than you personally may approve of or encourage. Or it might mean one or both might be gay or lesbian. But it does not mean they are going to have surgery to become the opposite sex. That's where the problem lies with people like you: you don't know enough about what you talk/write about and so you just make stuff up as you go along. Gay and lesbian is not the same as trans. It may be a starting place, but in most cases, gays and lesbians are just that, people (made in the image and likeness of gOd) that are attracted to members of their own sex. Transgendered are people that feel that they are (and want to become) the opposite sex). I don't ask you to understand, or agree, simply that you "leave the kids alone"

      And stop pushing religious crap on children FIRST! for DOG's sake man, making a child learn about goD and religion is just brainwashing. "Just leave kds alone." (that goes for the kkkristofascist pedophiles as well)

  1. Father Flanagan's Avatar Father Flanagan

    Putting aside the religious aspect and argument - this goes against science and nature. This whole concept is designed by marxists and globalists to weaken society into becoming compliant with any insane absurd rule or idea these tyrannical wannabe “overlords” can come up with. There are only 2 genders period and they are not interchangeable as you cannot change your chromosomes or dna. I don’t believe in any of these religions but I do know what they say and no matter who your god is - they made man and woman only not something “in between” or in my case - I believe nature through evolution produced a male and a female to procreate and anything else such as homosexuality is in-natural, if the rectum were designed for intercourse it would be self lubricating like the vagina and would serve a purpose other than the disposal of poisonous waste. And if that isn’t enough - Logic, Reason, and Common Sense all say that this is all nonsense just like the climate change hoax and the 2020 election!

    1. Robert Michael Nodding's Avatar Robert Michael Nodding

      How could anyone argue with your perfectly logical conclusions? That last sentence was the clincher for me.

    2. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

      Sorry you feel that way, Father. You’re wrong tho

    3. Robert James Ruhnke's Avatar Robert James Ruhnke

      Sorry you feel that way, Father. You’re wrong tho

    4. Elizabeth Jane Erbe Wilcox's Avatar Elizabeth Jane Erbe Wilcox

      The “something in between” is intersex.

    5. Joe R Day's Avatar Joe R Day

      How neatly you bundle the human race... "There are only 2 genders period, and they are not interchangeable as you cannot change your chromosomes or DNA."

      "Collectively, the DNA differences explained only 8 to 12 percent of the heritability of having same-sex partners. “There is no gay gene,” Ganna said, “but rather non-heterosexuality is influenced by many tiny-effect genetic factors.”

      In 2018, the was a major study done. "Researchers examined DNA data from more than 400,000 participants in the U.K. Biobank and more than 69,000 people who had their DNA tested by the consumer testing company 23andMe. People who have given their DNA data to those research projects also answered a battery of questions, including ones about whether they had ever had a partner of the same sex and how many sexual partners they have had. The findings were replicated with data from three other studies, including one from Sweden. Findings from such large studies are more likely to be replicated than the small studies in the past, Bailey says. Researchers have “really gotten these studies down now and if they find things, it’s pretty sure that they’re true.”

      So, the DNA and chromosome studies say that your thoughts are incorrect... Perhaps your belief that the 2020 election was actually 'nonsense' and the Climate Change science has solid evidence that it is happening to our planet and humans are to blame?

      Just something to consider...

  1. Krystal Lynn Rains's Avatar Krystal Lynn Rains

    So sad that the folks that are so against this book have never taken the time to learn why the author wrote it. It was done to support his son that doesn't fit into the normal gender binary of boy things/girl things and in support of his personal expression, his father wrote the book. It was a loving and accepting gift from a father to his precious son. Something that some "Christians" here, might want to examine as that loving support is expressed in their own written theology.

  1. Pamela Kay Waters's Avatar Pamela Kay Waters

    This stuff does not need to be brought up in school. Bad enough it's happening anyway but home is where this needs to stay. You are born a female with female parts or you are born a male with male parts. You are born this way for a reason WHY MESS it up. Unless you are born looking like a female down there but actually you are a male too with your stuff up inside. The people of this world is getting sicker in the head as the days goes on. What do people that care think what their god thinks

    1. Rev. Dr. Father JJ's Avatar Rev. Dr. Father JJ

      Clearly you don't understand what this issue is about or how it occurs. It's not clear cut as you wrongly suggest. Moreover, since your education is not medicine, science or egg coloring, it's best if you let those that have the knowledge to guide parents and children. Your god not only doesn't exist but doesn't care and certainly, your god doesn't matter

      1. ServantOfJudgement's Avatar ServantOfJudgement

        The creator of penicillin is a Christian.

        The creators of controlled flight are Christians.

        Modern atomic theory was given by, yep, you guessed it, a Christian.

        The coloring of eggs, non Christian but boy are they pretty, and tasty too!

        Imagine reading book that inspired you to give the world the most profound medicine imaginable, fly through the clouds and wield electricity with your fingertips. Truly remarkable if not miraculous. Thank God for it all.

        1. Patricia Law's Avatar Patricia Law

          easter eggs are Pagon, Einstein was Jewish, first thoughts on flight was Leonardo da Vinci who was not christian

    2. Rev. Mike Eggleston's Avatar Rev. Mike Eggleston

      Male and female are sexes, not genders. Gender is masculine or feminine.

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  1. John Casillo's Avatar John Casillo

    i wonder if God thinks everyone is so lost

  1. Mark Bales's Avatar Mark Bales

    I do not understand how anyone who doesn't believe in God, would bother to get 'ordained'.

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