Nonbinary Wedding Ceremony Script

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Non-binary wedding ceremonies are for couples where one or both individuals want a gender-neutral script because they may be gay, queer, or non-conforming. Even if the couple doesn’t fall into those categories, they may not want gender involved in the ceremony script. For that reason, a non-binary wedding ceremony script can serve multiple purposes.

Introduction/Welcome/Wedding Sermon

Officiant (to guests):

I welcome you all to the wedding of _______________ and _______________. We are here to recognize and celebrate the love between these two companions as they unite into a beautiful marriage relationship.

Officiant (to couple):

_______________ and _______________ , you have chosen to commemorate your love and promise to one another with this marriage ceremony today.

Reading

“We, unaccustomed to courage

exiles from delight

live coiled in shells of loneliness

until love leaves its high holy temple

and comes into our sight

to liberate us into life.

Love arrives

and in its train come ecstasies

old memories of pleasure

ancient histories of pain.

Yet if we are bold,

love strikes away the chains of fear

from our souls.

We are weaned from our timidity

In the flush of love’s light

we dare be brave

And suddenly we see

that love costs all we are

and will ever be.

Yet it is only love

which sets us free.”-Touched by An Angel by Maya Angelou

Exchanging of Vows

Officiant (to couple):

Let’s begin with the exchanging of wedding vows.

_______________, you may go ahead and say your vows now.

Partner 1:

I, _______________, take you, _______________, as you are, and promise to love you as you are now and who you will become in the future. I promise to intently listen to you, continually support you, and be accepting of the support you give me. I will always love you and not lose the faith in the love that you have for me for the rest of our lives that we have together.

(Edit vows as necessary to partner’s discretion.)

Officiant (to couple):

_______________, now it is your turn to profess your vows to _______________.

Partner 2:

I, _______________, take you, _______________, as you are, and promise to love you as you are now and who you will become in the future. I promise to intently listen to you, continually support you, and be accepting of the support you give me. I will always love you and not lose the faith in the love that you have for me for the rest of our lives that we have together.

(Edit vows as necessary to partner’s discretion.)

Exchanging of Rings

With the vows professed between the couple, we will now move forward with the exchanging of the rings.

Officiant (to couple):

Now each of you will exchange rings to one another as the symbolism of your love to each other.

Officiant (to Partner 1):

_______________, place your ring on _______________’s finger and repeat after me. “With this ring, I promise that I will love, appreciate, cherish, and defend you for the rest of our lives.”

Partner 1:

With this ring, I promise that I will love, appreciate, cherish, and defend you for the rest of our lives.

Officiant (to Partner 2):

_______________, place your ring on _______________’s finger and repeat after me. “With this ring, I promise that I will love, appreciate, cherish, and defend you for the rest of our lives.”

Partner 2:

With this ring, I promise that I will love, appreciate, cherish, and defend you for the rest of our lives.

Declaration of Intent

Officiant (to couple):

_______________ and _______________, take each other’s hands at this time, please.

_______________, do you take _______________ to be your lawfully wedded partner?

Partner 1:

I take _____ to be my lawfully wedded partner.

Officiant (to Partner 2):

_______________, do you take _______________ to be your lawfully wedded partner?

Partner 2:

I take _______________ to be my lawfully wedded partner.

Pronouncement

Officiant (to couple):

_______________ and _______________, you have made a promise of love to each other in front of all your family friends here today and are becoming united as a married couple.

By the power vested in me by the Universal Life Church Ministries, I now proclaim you as a married couple! You may now share a kiss if you choose.