Personal Wedding Ceremony

Personal Wedding
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  • ~13 Minute Ceremony

As more and more couples are choosing to personalize their wedding by having a friend perform the ceremony, we designed a wedding officiant script specifically for those first-time officiants who might need a few pointers. Just because you don’t have tons of experience doesn’t mean the ceremony can’t be fulfilling and memorable!

Introduction

OFFICIANT (to congregation):

OK, everyone please take a seat!

We are gathered here today to witness _________ and _________ join in holy matrimony. That’s what I’m supposed to say, right? I have something in common with the _________ and _________: This is my first wedding too!

See, most officiants meet with the couple once or twice before the ceremony and then see them the day of the wedding and then “Wham, bam thank you, couple!” … they take off for their next wedding gig.

Not me. I’ve known _________ since _____, and I’ve seen him/her/them transform into a wonderful partner over the years. And I’m lucky to say I’ve known _________ for a good, long while too. Not only have I seen _________ and _________ grow as people, I’ve seen their relationship grow and blossom into a thing of beauty and I know the kindness, love and respect they have for one another has already paved the way for their marriage to be an amazingly happy one.

So, it’s my great honor to officially begin the wedding of my two good friends; _________ and _________.

Declaration of Intent

OFFICIANT (to _________):

_________ please repeat after me:

_________, you are my friend, my partner in crime, my first mate, my love, my lover, my everything. I promise to love you, honor you, help you, have fun with you and share the rest of my life with you and only you until the end of my days.

OFFICIANT (to _________):

_________ please repeat after me:

_________, you are my friend, my partner in crime, my first mate, my love, my lover, my everything. I promise to love you, honor you, help you, have fun with you and share the rest of my life with you and only you until the end of my days.

Vow/Ring Exchange

OFFICIANT (to congregation):

Ok, let’s bring out those rings!

The heart shape has a really good press agent, but circles are the ultimate symbol of love. I think about wedding rings as being two half circles that have finally found their other half. And now completed they flow into each other so perfectly you cannot see anything but a perfect union.

And so, it’s the perfect symbol not just for love, but also for _________ and _________. They have found each other and are so perfect for each other.

OFFICIANT (to couple):

And now as you slide your rings on each other’s fingers, realize they’re not simply circles you’re giving to your loved ones, you’re giving yourself to your perfect match and blending two very awesome people into one perfect union.

_________:

_________, please accept this ring as a token of my everlasting devotion to you and our wonderful life together. With this ring I thee wed and am proud to give myself to you fully.

_________:

_________, please accept this ring as a token of my everlasting devotion to you and our wonderful life together. With this ring I thee wed and am proud to give myself to you fully.

The Pronouncement

OFFICIANT (to congregation):

I’ve known _________ and _________ for years, I was there when they first met and now here I am using the power vested in me by the great state of _____, to pronounce them husband/wife/partner and husband/wife/partner.

OFFICIANT (to couple):

Go ahead and get that first married kiss out of the way!

Closing Statement

OFFICIANT (to congregation):

There are so many different kinds of love. The love you have for your friends and family. The love you have for that super rare Lego Millennium Falcon that your friend accidentally knocked off your kitchen table and destroyed, but now you’re 100% over it because he just officiated your wedding.

But the love between two people who choose to get married is a very special kind of love.

It’s not a love you’re not born into, it’s one that needs to be built. Brick by brick.

The first brick is a look, the next a conversation, then a date, another date, some things we won’t mention in front of the children, and each and every day since they met they’ve been adding bricks to their love’s foundation until one day they realize it is solid and nothing can destroy it, not even accidentally falling on the kitchen floor.

_________ and _________ have built this love together and I know they will keep adding exciting new bricks each and every day.